Finding “the one” is a lot like shopping for clothes. If you’re like me, you’ll probably have to try on a few different things before you find something that really fits you. You might find something that looks good at first glance, but doesn’t fit you quite right. You may try something that fits, but still feels a little uncomfortable—even if you can’t put your finger on why. You might even know exactly what you’re looking for, but simply cannot find it.
You try on that one dress, that one top, that one pair of jeans, that one pair of shoes that was just what you were looking for, and that fits you just right. You buy it/them and wear this item over and over again feeling more and more confident about your purchase with each wear. Finding the person you are meant to be isn’t quite the same (tbh it’s way better), but it does evoke similar sentiments.
Since getting engaged, I’ve had a lot of people ask me how I knew Austin was “the one.” Generally it seems like they are looking for a specific instance or memory but I really don’t have one. The longer we dated the less I was able to even picture my life without him. We instantly fell into a rhythm and have been on the same beat ever since. Here’s why:
While Austin and I do share some similarities, truthfully we are really different. For example, he’s very measured and analytical whereas I shoot from the hip and have a creative brain. The list of our differences could go on and on, but the moral of the story is that he’s the ying to my yang because, despite our differences, we have always had very similar expectations about our relationship.
I could go through all of the things that I appreciate about Austin or make a seemingly universal list of the various signs that make a guy “the one” but ultimately that’s up to each of us. I think we can all agree on finding someone that loves you for you, listens and cares about both the ups and the downs, and respects your thoughts and opinions. However, there’s more to it than that.
Moreover, I feel that a “checklist” of sorts actually over complicates something that is really quite simple. To be frank, if you’re having check boxes off a list or give it that much thought in the first place… Chances are you haven’t found your person yet. But don’t worry—you will find your perfect fit. And when you do, I promise you’ll know it.